Relationship break up advice
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But believe me, there is hope!! Yes, you are now crying nonstop, but it will get better.
Advice from the wise one...
It seems like it was yesterday when my grandmother was the first one to give me relationship break up advice. I was only 16 when I suffered my first break up. At that moment it felt that my whole world was coming to an end.
She told me to just let it all out. My poor eyes were so swollen from crying all night long. I could barely open my eyes the next day. I remembered she took me shopping. I don't know why, but in a way it felt good. I guess it was that I got something new after loosing something old.
Then she told me something that made no sense what so ever when she said it. After all it was my first break up and I had no experience in dealing with this kind of pain.
She told me that this past relationship was like a paragraph in one of the chapters in my life. That after a while I was just going to remember him like 3 small periods(...) from my book of life.
When she told me that I thought that she was crazy. But now it makes sense. What she meant was that I was going to forget about him; and whatever I did remember about him was just going to be unimportant. The 3 periods(...) represented something that did happen, but that is not important now. My life was going to go on.
Her crazy relationship break up advice did help me get trough some other breakups.
Advice from the cause of my pain
Ironically that guy that first broke my heart, did give me a really good relationship break up advice. He told me( many months after we ad ended our relationship) not to give my whole heart to just one person. Instead to give a little piece to everyone in my life.
Funny, if only he had told me that before he had dumped me. But, it's still some really good advice.
Look within you
Now that I look at the big picture, I think that the biggest reason why we suffer from a break up is because we put all of our joy and happiness on someone else.
When that someone doesn't love us anymore, then that's when we suffer.
Love should always come from inside us, not from outside. You should love yourself the most. Once you are able to do this, you see your life different.
I'm not saying that if someone dumps you and because you love yourself is not going to hurt. Yes it can, but not to the extend and as deep as if you didn't love yourself. The healing process will also work faster.
Don't beg him
Another thing, I know that there will be moments when you'll be weak and beg him to come back to you. Please, please, please be strong!! You owe it to yourself, you deserve much better.
Don't let the pain control you. Whenever you feel like calling him have have a bad list ready.
The bad list consist of all the bad things about him. Lets be honest, when you are in love you can only see the wonderful things about him, the great moments etc. But once you start to write out all the bad things about him, you'll start to wonder why you even went out with him to begin with.
Moving on in life
Also now that you are single, get to know who you are and what you want out of life.
If you are saying I wish I had someone to love me again, think about it very carefully. Because if you do find someone and you get dumped again. Won't you be in the same spot again?
Now is your chance to explore your life. Get to know the real you. What are your hobbies? Your passions? What can you do to make your life more meaningful?
Life is much better now
I know there will be times when you'll ask yourself if you are ever going to meet the right person. And the answer is a big yes! Now that I'm happily married and look back in my life, I'm mad at myself for crying for all those good for nothing guys.
Oh my God what was I thinking???
So the best relationship break up advice I can give you is give yourself time. Time really heals all wounds.
Give yourself time to heal and get to know who you are and what you want. You are a wonderful person and you deserve nothing else but the best.
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