Love mistakes that you need to avoid to be in a healthy relationship

We can all make some love mistakes if we are not careful. Love can be blinding, and not let us see what is truly happening.

If you have friends or family that don't agree with your current relationship, ask your self why? Is it possible that they can see something that you don't?

Read the list below, you might be surprise to find yourself in one or more of those love mistakes categories.

1. Thinking that only he can love you

This is something that some women think. Unfortunately it's due to a woman's low self-esteem. You may KNOW that what he is doing is wrong, or you may even allow him to mistreat you. However, you created this idea that only he can love you and just let him misbehave. However you have to realize that there are more fish in the ocean and that he is not the only one out there. You deserve a good man in your relationship.

2. Letting him use you, just so he can stay by your side

You may be desperate enough to let him walk all over you. This can be done in different ways such as physical, emotional, financially.

The worst part is that deep inside of you, you know that he is using you, but you are afraid to tell him something because you think that he may leave you. However, if he is just using you, you are just better off alone. At the end you will be able to have more dignity, more money in your checking account, and you can feel good that you stood up for your self.

3. Taking him back after he cheats and lies to you all the time

You know that what he has done is wrong, you even know that there's a chance he may do it again. But just the thought of being lonely scares you so much, that you rather take him back time after time.

You need to have the courage to be alone, rather than putting up with a jerk. Allowing him to do you wrong is a big love mistake and he will keep on doing it over and over again.

4. Letting him hit you

Let's make this straight, no one HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT YOU!!!! It doesn't matter what the circumstances are. You need to stand up for yourself and defend yourself. He may hit you and promise you that he won't do it again. However, if he hit you once, chances are he'll do it again.

5. Becoming his personal paycheck

There is nothing wrong in helping someone in need. However when asking for money becomes a habit, then you have a huge problem. You work hard for your money, so you shouldn't let him use you.

Unfortunately you don't see it as a love mistake when he is using you. You will only notice it at the end when he has left you and you are left broke.

6. Allowing him to put you down

Having someone tell you that you are stupid, fat, ugly, unworthy, that no one else is going to love you and you should be happy that he is with you, etc., is not good for your mental health. What he is doing is manipulating you, to think that you can never be happy unless you are with him.

This is a very toxic relationship to be in. You should not have to put up with it. You'll be making a big love mistake if you continue with someone like him.

7. Ignoring his drinking problem

This is a very serious problem that should not be ignore. If you are in denial of his problem and think that he can stop any time, you are only fooling yourself.

8. Thinking that you have to suffer too

When we are growing up, the adults around us are our role models. If you had a mother that used to get beat up, then you probably grew up with the idea that this is the way things have to be.

Also, if your father, uncle, grandfather or any other male you can think of used to cheat on your mother, grandma, aunt, etc, then this is normal too.

WRONG! You don't have to put up with a cheating, beating jerk! You deserve better than that.

Even if your own mother tells you that this is the way men are, and that you can't change them. She might be right in saying that you can't change them. However, you can change the pattern, and actually allow a good man to enter your life. You can only change the way you look at your life. So only you can stop repeating this love mistake.

9. Going from one relationship to another trying to fill the emptiness

So this month it was Joe, two moths from now it is going to be michael, after michael maybe Jim... Going from from one relationship to another trying to fill that empty hole you feel inside of you, is not going to help you.

This is caused by thinking that the grass will will be greener on the other side all the time, while trying to find something that you won't be able to find.... your TRUE SELF

The emptiness you may think can be fill up by having someone in your life. But it goes beyond that, it's about finding who you truly are!!

10. Thinking that you really know him

You may be with someone for a long time and think that you truly know him. But are you sure you know the real him and not just the person you think he is?

I highly recommend Michael Webb's Questions for couples Here you will find 1000 of the most important questions couples should ask each other. Some of his answers will really surprise you.

His answers may even make you think twice about continuing your relationship. It's better to find out early in the relationship,rather than finding down the road that you two are not really that compatible for each other.

Did you find yourself in one or more of these love mistakes? Don't feel bad if you did. This is just the beginning to opening your eyes to what it's truly going on.

You deserve to be happy and have a good healthy relationship in you life. However, only you have the power to make this happen. It's not about the other person, it's about you. You need to have the courage to say enough is enough, today it's the day I put an end to my suffering and allow a good person to enter my life. Put to a side all of those crazy love mistakes you have made in the past and start working on a new and positive relationship.

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