How to break up today

You need to learn how to break up. You have been with someone for a while. But you feel that there is no future for the two of you. So now you are trying to figure out how to break up with him.

This will be a painful, but necessary process. The sooner you do it, the better it will be for the two of you. There is no point in prolonging what will sooner of later come to an end.

You may feel guilty or bad at first, but in the long run it's what's best for you and him. Letting him go will not only free you from his presence, but it will allow the right person to enter your life and his life as well. So just follow up the following "how to break up" tips.

1. You must not feel pressure that you have to stay with him.

You probably get some sort of pressure from your family and friends. They keep telling you how wonderful he is, etc.

However, only YOU have total control over your heart. If you know deep inside of you that you don't love him, then it's time to move on.

2. Timing is everything!

Yes, you are dreading to tell him how you truly feel. But if you allow time to pass you by, it will become harder to tell him. Not only that, but he will start to get on your nerves and you may even start to hate him. It may sound a bit drastic, but it can happen. What should have been done in a few months may become years if you are not careful!

3. How to tell him

Set a place where the two of you can talk without any interruptions. Ideally it should be a place that is neutral for the two of you, like a park.

Then don't give him a long story, just get to the point. This way you can get it out of your chest and avoid the chance of you not telling him.

4. Dealing with is response

Every man will react differently, so you have to prepare yourself.

* He may start to cry.

This will probably make you feel bad. But be careful, do not let his tears convince you to take him back. If not, you will be repeating this break up process all over again. So be strong!

* He is threatening to kill himself if you leave him.

You have already made up your mind and you should not turn back. Specially if you are being manipulated by his behavior. Do ask his friends and family to keep an eye on him.

No matter what he says, don't get back with him. This is definitely a good reason not to be with him in the first place. You should not be with someone that tries to control you.

* He hits you.

Even though he is hurt, that does not give him the right to hit you. Get away from him as soon as possible. Run if you must! Do not become his personal punching bag.

Not matter what he says or what his justifications are, you do not deserve to get hurt!! Many women get abuse and think that it's o.k., but is not. Stand up for yourself. After seen this dark side of him you'll be glad that you started to see how to break up with him. You should not be with someone like that.It's time to move on.

Do let someone you trust know that you are going to break up with him. That way he or she can check on you and make you that you are o.k. Not only that, but also to give you moral support.

Hopefully once you know how to break up, you'll make up your mind and do it. It may be hard at first, but you'll be glad you did it. Good luck.

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