How to love yourself today

What if today you meet the person you could love forever?

I'm not talking about meeting your prince charming. However, I'm talking about meeting the most amazing person in your life...that person is you!

Yes, you!

If you feel depressed, if you feel your life has no meaning, if you keep getting into bad relationships, if people take advantage of you, etc. If all of this is happening to you, it's because you don't love yourself.

How to love yourself ?

Try this simple, but very deep exercise.

• Find a quiet spot in your home, where you won't be disturbed. Put your cell phone on silent mode. Leave your pet outside.

• Find a mirror where you can see your whole face.

• Sit in a comfortable spot and...

Look at yourself. I mean really look at yourself.

Look into your eyes and ask yourself "Who am I"? Just keep looking, do not put the mirror down. Do not be surprised if you start crying. This again is a very simple, but very powerful exercise.

Continue asking "who am I"?

If the answer is I don't know, that's o.k. If you answer is I'm a wife, I'm a lawyer, I'm a cook, keep looking deeper and deeper. Don't go by the label that society has given you.

Keep looking for as long as possible. You have just started to see this person you had never met before.

This person is you.

You may feel sad that you don't really know this person. You may even feel confused. What ever you feel is o.k.. You are just learning how to love yourself.

So who are you?

When we are little kids, that's when we are truly ourselves. Back then you didn't need to know how to love yourself. We had such a big imagination, we loved ourselves so much, we even knew that we were the center of attention.

We had no limitations, we wanted to explore everything. We had no fear, everyday was like a new adventure.

We also accepted who we were. We didn't see ourselves as fat or skinny, short or tall. We didn't go around comparing ourselves to anyone.

But then as we got older, we were told what to do and how to behave. Maybe when you used to color you were told that the sky is blue and not green. At the same time you could not color the trees purple, they have to be green. Small things, but little by little your imagination was minimized.

Or perhaps they made you take piano lessons, when all you really wanted to do was play basketball. You dreaded playing the piano everyday, but you were told what to do.

Maybe even your voice changed. Perhaps your mother told you that you had a loud voice, then you developed a softer voice. So soft that people have problem hearing you even if you are next to them!

It doesn't matter what it was, but you were changed one way or the other. Your parents, teacher, family didn't do this to hurt you, they did exactly what they were told to do when they were little too.

Now what you have to do is find your inner child. You are still there!

Finding your inner child

Finding your inner child is important to learn how to love yourself. Again find a quiet spot. You can sit or lay down, close your eyes and relax. Go back in time and remember your most cherished memory of when you were a little kid.

Can you see yourself? What did you look like? What were you doing? Hold onto this image. Relive it again.

Then choose another happy memory when you were a little girl. See what that happy little girl looked like. What was she doing? Where was she?

Then choose another memory and so on. Relive as much as you can remember.

See your little self again. See your little hands, how do they feel? Your cute chubby cheeks, can you touch them? Feel yourself as a little girl. Let yourself feel her for as long as you can.

Then looking at that cute little girl, tell her how much you love her. See yourself getting down and giving her a big hug. Tell her how precious she is. Tell her how important she is. Tell her how you'll always be there to protect her.

Tell her how you'll give her unconditional love. That no matter what happens you are always going to be there for her.

Say I love you________(put your name), I love you______, I love you ______,Say I love you_______for at least 30 times.

The reason why it's important to see our inner child is because this is who you really are. This little girl had so many dreams. She was happy with the little things in life. She had so much thirst for life. She had so much innocence. She didn't have any limitations!

Now grab that mirror again, look deep into your eyes and say I love You _____.

When you go to bed tell your self I love you______ 10 times. Do it for at least 10 days and you'll start to see a difference in your self. Once you put in practice how to love yourself you'll be a much happier person.

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