Breakup tips to use today

Here are some breakup tips that can make your healing process easier. Right now one can really know how much your heart hurts after you have been dumped, except you. Healing a broken heart takes time. But don't loose hope, soon you will be able to feel better again.

DO NOT listen to romantic music after you've been dumped!

Believe me, I used to listen to romantic music after my first breakup. This only added more pain to my poor broken heart. Music brings back too many old memories that at this moment are not worth trying to remember.

Get rid of his stuff and old memories

If for some reason you still have some of his old stuff around your home or car, make sure you get rid of it. Such items can be clothes, books, cds, etc. Out of all the breakup tips, this one may be the one that we may not think about, but it's very important.

It's amazing how little items can bring back some old memories. It can specially bring back your break up day. So really make sure to go around and have no mercy, if you see something that makes you think of him just place it in the trash!

Even if it's something that he gave you, say goodbye to all those stuffed animals, perfumes, clothes or anything that he gave you. Rip all those pictures of the him, don't even leave any of them.

Then to make sure you don't change your mind, put the trash bag in the dumpster and say goodbye to him.

Go out with your friends and family

You are still in a healing process, so for now try to stay away from men. Instead go out with friends or family.

The more you are by yourself, the worst it will be for you. Believe me you'll start to feel miserable and only wish that you could be with him again. You'll be blinded and think only of the good times you had together.

Besides, by being with people that care about you,it makes you realize that he's not your world. Not only do you have people that can listen to hear your problems, but those people can share their problems with you . This way you can stop thinking just about yourself and focus your attention on someone else.

Now you can go out and have fun with your friends! When was the last time you had a girls night out?

Allow your broken heart to speak out

Out of all the breakup tips, writing out my feeling really helped me release some of the pain I had inside. Writing broken heart poems broken heart poems almost became automatic for me.

I could not believe how words would just come out. On some of the poems I wasn't even trying to make them rhyme, but they did.

So express yourself on paper, let everything out. You don't necessarily need to write poems, but just write out what you are feeling.

Keep yourself busy after your breakup

You can either decide to stay all day in bed crying over him, or try to do something productive with your life.

You can try some new aerobic classes in the gym. Do some gardening, clean the house, paint, read a book, etc. Just do something. Not only will it help you keep your mind busy, but your body as well.

He's not worth gaining some extra 10 pounds. At times like this I know that we can over eat chocolate, cookies or any time of "comfort" food. So before you start to put something in your mouth think about it. Ask yourself, will putting this in my body take my pain away?

Volunteer to heal your broken heart

Out of all the breakup tips, this one can really help you see that you are not the only one suffering in this world.

By being able to help those in need, you'll be able to focus on someone's pain. If you see someone that is suffering even more than you, you'll realize that your pain is nothing compare to the suffering of some other people.

There are some people that do need you. There is no better feeling that going to bed, and knowing that you made a difference in someone's life.

I know that these breakup tips are not magical. Everyone is different and it may take you days, weeks or months to get over him.

But no matter how long it takes you, remember it will get better. He may not have notice what he lost, but remember that you are worth a lot. Besides, most likely you'll be laughing at yourself for crying over him. Only time cures the broken heart.

Just keep in mind, just because your previous relationship didn't work, it doesn't mean that the next won't. Not everyone is meant for each other. But do make sure you take your time to heal before you jump into another relationship.

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